“Sunday Will Come”

9 June 2012

As our family tries to learn how to manage the new phase of our lives – living without Tyler, I grasp onto stories, quotes, anything I can find online, or sent to us by our loved ones to help ease the new pain in my life.  I have received so many cards and letters from people we know and care about all over the country – I have been overwhelmed with all the expressions of love.  I have also received many quotes and stories that have brought me comfort.  Thank you for thinking of us!

One such letter came today – my amazing niece who lives in Virginia.  Her little family has endured more than their share of heartache, yet she continues to move forward with a smile on her face and determination to perservere.  She has always been an example to me, and she is young enough to be my own daughter (I love her like she is)!  She sent me a talk by Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin from a conference address in 2006.  Elder Wirthlin talks of losing loved ones in his life, namely his beautiful wife of 65 years, Elisa.  His tender stories of their life together illustrated perfectly how much he loved her, and how the pain of losing her was nearly unbearable.  When President Hinckley spoke at her funeral, he said, “It is a devastating, consuming thing to lose someone you love.  It gnaws at your soul.”  Our family is feeling that gnawing now.  Life without Tyler feels very empty.  As our children have been our greatest joy, losing one of them is now our greatest sorrow.

Elder Wirthlin said that after his sweet wife passed away, he spent a great deal of time thinking about eternal things and found great comfort in the sermons on the Resurrection of Jesus Christ.  He, I’m sure knew every detail and event of that Easter week.  I plan to study this in much more depth now.  His testimony of Christ’s resurrection struck such a chord in me as I listened to this talk again today.  I know what he spoke of is true.

He spoke of the terrible, dark Friday that Christ was lifted up on the cross.  The earth shook and grew dark – there were storms that lashed at the earth.  On that Friday, evil men who sought His life rejoiced.  On that Friday, Mary Magdalene and Mary, the mother of Jesus were both overcome with grief and despair.  In his words “It was a Friday filled with devastating, consuming sorrow that gnawed at the souls of those who loved and honored the Son of God.  I think that of all the days since the beginning of this world’s history, that Friday was the darkest.”

“But the doom of that day did not endure.  The despair did not linger because on Sunday, the resurrected Lord burst the bonds of death.  He ascended from the grave and appeared gloriously triumphant as the Savior of all mankind.”

As I read this talk, the paragraph that almost jumped off the page and into my heart read:

“Each of us will have our own Fridays-those days when the universe itself seems shattered and the shards of our world lie littered about us in pieces.  We all will experience those broken times when it seems we can never be put together again.  We will all have our Fridays.  But I testify to you in the name of the One who conquered death – Sunday will come.  In the darkness of our sorrow, Sunday will come.  No matter our desperation, no matter our grief, Sunday will come.  In this life or the next, Sunday will come.”

In these lonely days now that the hospital visits, funeral planning, and details are over, these words bring me a measure of comfort.  On this ‘Friday’, I feel lonely, apprehensive, and afraid of the future without Tyler here.  But these words do whisper comfort to me.  Although we, as a family are definitely living in the pain of ‘Friday’, the only peace I can lean on is that our ‘Sunday will come’.  How grateful I am for that.

You can watch Elder Wirthlin’s  amazing message by clicking here – wirthlin talk.

You can read the conference address here.


Until we meet again Tyler

My sweet boy


The balloon launch


He lives!


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